Monday, June 10, 2013

It Might Be For The Best I Don't Have Children...

...because they'd become my life experiment...and I'd have no intentions of hiding it. For a long time, I've imagined what it would be like to be responsible for raising a child – not from feelings of lack or longing, so much as an interest in the possibilities. When I say experiment, I'm not referring to any cruel or unusual procedures. 

As a father, I might finally have personal answers to questions including: 

  • What would be the quality of a child's health, who was first brought up feeding only on breast milk, then later drinking primarily water?

  • How might a water birth at home beneficially affect their transition into the world, in an observable way?

  • What kind of mental abilities and attention levels would a child exhibit who consumed no GMOs, sodas, candies, freeze pops, or other neon-color & white-sugar products void of nutrition?

  • What might this child see, dream and conceive, in a TV and video game-free household?

  • How strong would their unvaccinated and medicine-free immune system be?

  • What would be their outlook towards the surrounding environment while receiving a home-based education that emphasized their true origin, and potential, in a cosmic reality that caters to consciousness?

  • How strong would their body be, eating mostly fruits & vegetables, complemented with some legumes, nuts, seeds and whole grains?

  • What quality of relationship might I share with this child, by practicing an open and honest conversation with them; maintaining a sense of order and discipline without degenerating into desperate “I'm the parent, so you do what I say” tactics? 
  • How would such a child carry themselves when interacting with peers? 
  • How might such a child act, when brought up under a clear understanding of man's responsibility as a steward and caretaker, rather than strictly a consumer, of the physical world and its resources?

  • In what way might such a child grow to view & acknowledge The Creator, and Life Itself? 

In my eyes, the only task more challenging than that of a parent, is that of a non-parent around children. The parent is accountable for the decisions they make in child-raising, but at least they can make those decisions in a position of authority. As a non-parent, I am often relegated to observations from the outside, unable to make the most important calls – what to eat/drink, where to go, what to play, how to behave. 

I can't count the number of times I've wanted to make a helpful suggestion for the sake of a young one - “Try sleeping without the TV”; “Give the Xbox a rest and come play outside”; “Don't forget to eat your greens”; “Don't ever be scared to speak your mind” - and didn't, or wasn't heeded, due to conditions they'd already been not only exposed to, but conformed to. I've observed in some children a mounting pressure building between what they know to be so, and what they've been taught; I would rather they were spared that unneeded stress and anxiety. It's especially tough to endure the high-stimulus shows television uses to program their thinking and curtail their conceptual abilities, or watch them shun drinking water in favor of mind-compromising kool-aid, or pass up a well-balanced home-cooked meal in favor of McDonald's or fried “chicken”.

My concern comes not from a desire to control and mold another life as if they were simply a possession built for personal amusement and gratification, but to help them understand what it means to be a completely conscious individual, and to enjoy living as such, to the best of their wishful ability. Childhood is one of the great simple enjoyments of existence, and far too many of us have been robbed of ours completely, or had it cut short. Beyond joy, early years should be supplemented with the tools and resources that will help one reach full maturity - enabling the experience of a rich & healthy life overrunning with possibilities, and the ability to do more, be more, and realize more than generations prior. This is all just an incomplete summation of my feelings, but I hope everyone reading can at least agree on one thing: our children are worthy of our best.

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